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About sandypowers

Life Coach since 1998

Thoughts to Ponder

Why is it so hard to quit things that aren’t good for you? How come bad habits have so much control?

Why don’t I follow through more often when my still small voice warns me that what I’m about to do is nuts? Why, even when I hear what’s good for me do I say at times screw it and do it anyway, then regret it, feel shame, and start the cycle again?

When will I listen? Why does good change take so long? Why do I get restless, bored, so easily and quit?

Why am I more comfortable doing nothing? Why can’t I follow through on what I know is good for me?Why do I continue allowing dysfunction to win?Why is it easier to stay in my comfort zone then grow?

Why when I really really want to change do I fall back into my same routine only thinking about but not taking action?

Why am I so weak? What’s wrong with me? Why do I always fail? 

After a lot of ongoing work I’ve boxed up these questions and put them on the top shelf in my closet. I’ll never completely make them disappear.

But….

Luckily I’m better at not letting the questions stop me from healing my wounds and moving forward. 

Luckily I’ve proven to myself I am resilient. I am courageous. I am strong. I am loving and lovable. Heck I survived hell didn’t i? 

Luckily I can and do move beyond pain, using my loss as a catalyst for healthy change.

Luckily I know feelings come and go like the wind. They don’t last forever.

Luckily I know I haven’t even tapped my full potential. I can feel it inside and I’m working my behind off to develop it, to give it a chance.

Luckily every time I take healthy action for my well being I know it changes my life for the good. It works. Yes it takes it old sweet time it feels like at times, but if I can hang on and quit being impatient it works.

Luckily now a days the questions pretty much stay on the shelf and don’t mess with me as often. Sure at times they fall off the shelf, but only on days I’ve eaten too much, or didn’t get enough sleep, or said yes too many times when no was the healthier response.

Luckily I’m kinder to myself. I get I’m human and as a human there’s no getting out of screwing up once in a while, and that those in my life will screw up once in a while, there’s no getting around that striving to be perfect opens the door for suffering. I finally get it and accept it. I give myself a break and others too more often.

I know my mind is relieved knowing the heart is finally in charge. Sure it doesn’t like the unknown. It hasn’t figured out the “why” stepping into the unknown when the heart says jump works. But the more I do it the more the mind relaxes and helps me just jump.

I love it how the heart and head tag team support and stop me from allowing doubt and fear to stop me in my tracks.

I am getting better each day. I know the questions will never completely disappear, but they don’t bug me as much!

Life is good. Even the mini hells I move through faster.

I am grateful.

KINDNESS

This is my precious granddaughter.
She has Pfeiffer Syndrome.
I love her to pieces.

Morning prayer💛

I’m reading an article by Tara Brach. She writes, “I have a morning prayer that’s really simple: ‘Teach me about kindness.’”

“Teach me about kindness.”

My thoughts…
What if we started our day that way?And what if everywhere we went whatever we encountered we found opportunities to be kind?

Never doubt the impact kindness makes on others, on our animals, in nature. 

Kind eyes. A gentle touch. A warm smile. These are small things we can do to make this world a better place.

#kindness #bekindinaction #kindeyes #gentletouch #warmsmile #maysavealife #mayboostselfconfidence #willmakeyoufeelgood #willraisethelevelofkindnessintheworld

I BELIEVE IN YOU

Years ago I published a book titled, I Believe In You: Discovering the Inside Passage to Happiness.  It was my hope that what I wrote would inspire you.

And maybe, just maybe you’d realize how incredibly powerful you are, that in you is everything you need to transform a negative into a positive. 

Sometimes that thought has been so beaten down by life we forget who we really are. We let our past define us. We walk around numb to the power we have within. 

Never forget you were born on purpose for a purpose. 

There isn’t anyone who can’t change their life. It’s not magic. It just takes work. It takes not giving up when rejection hits you. It’s not giving up when those around you don’t believe in you. It’s not giving up when you don’t believe in yourself. 

There is a power within us much greater than our own personality. A power that has been with us since the Sacred first gave us life. 

The inner work we do WILL rub off on others. Our transformed energy, because it’s powered by Love, has the potential to help others wake up to their authentic self. 

Anyone who goes deep sea diving into their own heart discovering their gifts, developing them, and using them changes the world for the better. 

Stop long enough to become self-observant. Identify negative ways you think about your self. Identify habits that don’t serve you. Identify experiences that haunt you and heal them.

When we become detectives in our life, taking it seriously, rolling up our sleeves and doing the work, we discover untapped powerful potential. And when we do the transformation process begins. 

Little by little self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence rise. With that comes barrels of courage we didn’t know we had. We dare to risk stepping out of our comfort zone. 

And surprisingly enough rejection doesn’t sting as much it once did. And the work resilience has done at the gym shows, muscles are bulging. 

Even if we want to quit at times because doubt and fear take hold we persevere. We can’t stop. Something in us propels us forward. 

However long it takes to live the peace and joy we deserve we don’t give up because we are worth it. 

And when our lives shift our transformation stories begin to inspire others. And on it goes.

To conclude this ramble my book was dedicated to my great, great, great, grandchild. And at the end of my book I wrote….

“It occurred to me we are all great, great, great grandchildren.

What if my great great great grandmother was whispering to me as I sat at my computer writing down these words? What if her story is my own? What if…

May we continue to listen to our own stories with the eyes and ears of our hearts. Maybe then will know and understand what we’ve been looking for.”

THERE IS HOPE

 

What a magnificent time we live in. As much hate, corruption, hurtful & judgmental behavior social media vomits there is HOPE.

I witness daily human beings making a difference dedicated to living life from their heart. Their journey is not easy. Despite the flood of negativity they are not fooled.

They easily spot the crazed beast with its many disguises that tries wrapping its ugly tentacles around them sucking them down deep into a vortex of confusion, hopelessness, and hate.

These spiritual warriors see beyond the fear and are changing the world by training their minds to be led via their heart. They know, because of the inner work they’ve done, they were born to help end suffering. As their awareness has heightened, their ability to risk stepping into uncharted territories has grown.

Compassion, empathy, acceptance of others, love, new ideas to heal the planet, are taking root all over the world and in places you’d least expect it. Heart-led actions for healing are occurring every day.

If you’ve been discouraged don’t be. We have the capacity to step out of dark thoughts and into the light, every one of us.

Today be a cycle breaker, start the inner work it takes. Be a spiritual warrior and walk your values proudly. Be a model of well being to others. Be a change maker for the good.

How? Offer a kind word, a gentle smile, recognize how hard the clerk in the store, the waitress or wait person, the maid, your co-worker, colleague, works and tell them how much you appreciate them. Start small and watch your kindness grow becoming a habit. You are changing your community for the better.

But always beware of the crazed beast of negativity. If you recognize its presence tear off its tentacles. Its greatest talent is to try and squeeze out hope and twist our mind into a million anxious depressing thoughts.

Let’s join with those who see beyond fear and become determined to be a flashlight for our Creator.

Good is happening. The more good you see the more good you will see. 

SHINE FORTH

 

SHINE FORTH
Our first breath was a gift from God. Imagine the power of that Divine Love able to awaken us into this world. That Love is in us and always has been. For years we walked around not realizing it’s even there or the purpose and power of its presence.

We have within us a Love that far surpasses our emotional love. Many times we don’t know it’s there because we’re caught up in the pains of the past or situations where we feel powerless. But it’s there, we’re still breathing, it will always be a part of us.

The spiritual journey is about remembering and discovering this powerful gift given at birth by the One who makes this earth shake.

To develop the awareness of this Love is a worthy cause. Via that awareness we become a beacon of light for God. The more inner work we do to clean up our emotional house and gather self-care resources the brighter the Light shines forth.

What a blessing it is to serve self and others in this capacity. So simple yet so hard. It takes work, we’re human, but it’s always there ready for our embrace. Know matter how it feels in the moment no one can take this gift from us. This Love is beyond feelings.

Today allow yourself to be the sunrise in someone’s darkened world. Love. Shine forth.

Sandy Powers, Life Coach

NEGATIVES SERVE TOO
A spiritual practice is not about eliminating every perceived negative, but about recovery from the emotions they cause by tapping into the heart where the Sacred dwells. It’s about how quick we come back into balance after falling hard into the pit of helplessness.

Dedication to my practice is ongoing. When things are going good is when my best work is done. When I’m not under the weight of a negative I am able to develop and anchor in a multitude of self-care resources that I can lean on when things hit the fan.

Life is life. We are human. We are the good, the bad, and the ugly. We are hit with pain and suffering by things outside of us and we are also the cause pain and suffering to self and others. If we can step back and quit judging our behavior and hammering in how awful we are there’s an opportunity to turn an awful situation into a healing experience. No one is perfect, no one can escape negative emotions, so lighten up, recognize you’re human, and get on with it.

The not so fun emotions are not bad guys. They are only parts of us screaming for attention. The longer we ignore their voices the louder they scream. When we listen beyond the obvious reason for the flare up we’ll find there is more to the story. It is never just about what’s happened, inevitably it’s linked to some ugly experience we wanted to forget from the past.

Remember triggers abound. There is no escape, but we can minimize our triggers by paying attention to our emotions, our feelings, and get to work and heal.

Why, is the quintessential question that becomes our personal Sherlock Holmes. Why? Why? Why? Why keeps us digging within. When triggered I constantly remind myself there’s more to the story, keep going and usually without fail I find some past hurt that carries a like energy. When I get to the bottom of it, it’s liberating.

Spiritual work, is about listening, finding the calm within, and figuring out how to access it. When we do our lives are filled with more peace and joy. With more peace and joy, we win, those around us win, our community wins, and so does the world.

Life is good even the negatives.
Sandy Powers, Life Coach

 

COME BACK TO THE HEART

Come back to your own heart. The place where the Holy waits for your embrace.

Get quiet and listen.

It’s not the loud voice, but the Still Small voice of the Sacred that holds the key to truth.

No one outside of you has your answers, no one.

Listen with respect, gather information, research, study, but always go back to the heart, It knows.

It takes courage to act on what you know in your heart. It is a muscle to be developed.

Don’t beat yourself up if it’s too scary too make the changes you seek immediately, just keep coming back to where true truth resides, in You, one day you will. The Holy loves you right where you are.

Everything is in Divine Order.

– Sandy Powers, Life Coach

HEALING PRESENCE

The healing presence of love, is the only meaningful gift we can give when someone is emotionally suffering. 

Being with, just being, having the ability to sit in the uncomfortable silence when there are no words, shifts the environment for a brief period. It opens the gateway to the heart where the feeling of being utterly alone is briefly lifted, there is a wordless understanding that someone hears their pain, and with that act of peaceful presence a momentary breather is given on some level within. 

We will never truly know the impact of our compassionate heart, but we’ve all felt it when someone was just there for us, not trying to fix, but just with us, just present, sitting with, as we suffer. Yes, love is the most powerful gift we can give. 

Love is my religion. Love.

-Sandy Powers, Life Coach

LIVE LIFE ON YOUR TERMS

In our younger years our view of self was determined by what others taught us and thought of us. We bought into it because we knew no better. What society deemed beautiful, worthy, and of value we believed was the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Little did we know there was a greater resource of truth inside of us. That when we start to question the validity of what others say, do, and act and begin to look within we discover a whole other way of looking at life.

Stepping away from how you were told to live life and what is right, at first, is confusing. But when we continue to dive deeper separating our belief system from others and tap into our own beliefs that make sense to us a sense of freedom is encountered.

Finding beliefs that help you live a kinder, more joyful, and peaceful life is worth the effort. Stepping away from your original worldview, which for all of us was defined by those outside of us, at times will feel disloyal, but continue the journey.

Study, ask questions, and step outside your comfort zone. Explore on your own and you will find there are many ways to living a fulfilled life. Find one or two that help you grow into a more authentic you.

When you first quit living life from the way others think you should you’ll get resistance. People will try to pull you back into their view of the world. It’s just the way it is, it’s human nature. Feelings of rejection, doubt and fear will tag team, but keep going, find your way.

Be a trailblazer. Live from your heart and not by others standards or opinions on what and how you should live.

Find a path that’s right for you, a path that brings more joy and peace, a path that radiates your loving self, a path that makes your confidence and self worth soar.

We are each a unique expression of life. It’s okay to be different, to not think the same way as what you first thought was the right way.

Grow.
Educate.
Deep sea dive into your heart.
Find your way.

We need your beautiful unique expression of love and compassion in this world.

-Sandy Powers, Life Coach

PHASES IN LIFE

We go through different phases in our lives. There are ups and downs and all arounds. We carry sadness or anger or joy, or excitement, or… the list is endless, each is carried for a period of time. The emotion camps out in our being and after a while when it has done what it has meant to do it shape shifts into something else.

What could negative emotions be meant to do?
What could positive emotions be meant to do?
What is it we need to become aware of?

Reveal to me what I cannot see is my prayer. I know I will repeat the same cycle of emotion over and over again, being triggered in the same way, with the same energy coming at me, until my lenses clear, and my Spiritual self knows I’ve heard what it has been trying to share.

Everything is energy. Everything. As human beings we have been given the gift to shift the energy and use it in ways that serve us and others instead of draining us or dragging us down. But we can’t change and become energy shape shifters until we become mega energy managers, becoming aware of where we spend our energy.

No matter what you’re going through it’s ok.
It’s ok.
It’s ok.
Be with it.

Everything is in Divine order. Everything.

Over time we really start to get it, we’ve become master sleuths, finding the gifts of positive and negative experiences. We’ve invested in the best flashlights, invested in incredible magnifying glasses, and are willing to go wherever the emotion takes us. Often it takes us deep into the darkness. That’s ok, a master sleuth has it’s tools. We almost always uncover long ago buried debris. We examine what is found with the powerful tools in our toolbox. We’re members of the sleuth organization and utilize various members to help us discover meaning and understanding that sets us free and brings more peace and joy.

Discovery, clarity, getting it, is cause for celebration. Feel the joy. Feel the crazy wonderful joy. Stay with it. Don’t minimize the discoveries. Wash your body, mind, and soul, with what you’ve found, breath it in and breath it out. This is what awakening is all about.

Listen. Love. Laughter.
Listen with intention.
Love whatever you discover.
Laugh as you celebrate freedom.

Breathe your thoughts in, bring them home to the heart, the place where they can rest and just be for awhile. Breathe it in and breathe it out. Call them home. Breath them in, feel them making their way back into you, into the place where the only peace can be found.

You are your own safe space.
You are a magnificent energy of love.
You are more than enough to handle any situation.

Celebrate the joys. Celebrating is just as important as the listening and love. Stay with it. Re-energize yourself. You are worth it.

  • Sandy Powers, Life Coach

WE ARE NOT A MISTAKE

We were born on purpose.

We are not a mistake.

We have our own song to sing.

It doesn’t matter if there is a zillion others doing the same thing, your version, your expression, is uniquely yours and it is needed. There is no one in the entire world like you. Listen to others with respect. Take what fits and let the rest blow with the wind. What fits contemplate and reflect on it, then get quiet and listen to your own heart. Your unique expression will eat at you until it can be heard. Be brave. Find the courage. Go for it. Some will ridicule, some will shout words to cheer you on, who cares, keep going, reach deep inside, find your voice, your song, and sing it.

-Sandy Powers, Life Coach