Every experience serves to wake us up. Wake up means to find another perspective to the experience. Pain has the power to transform life for the better or worse. It’s up to us. We are the healer. Gather the broken pieces and slowly put the pieces back together again. Every part of us is worthy of attention. Learn to love even the parts you wish to hide. They all serve if we are willing to look at them as friends and not enemies. It’s not a quick rebuild, but when the intention is set, there is no stopping the restoration.
When our personal foundation blows up we can and will rebuild. We can rebuild as a victim or work our way toward a life of peace and joy. We have the resources within to pick up the pieces and put them back together again.
Inner work takes commitment. The answers we find are only as good and deep as the inner work we’ve done. Everyone has areas to work on. No one is perfect. You may think someone else has it all together, you’re wrong. No one is immune to change, no one has healed all of their wounds. The more you heal, the clearer the answers become, the more confident you become.
No one has the power to fix your life but you. Find people you admire, read about them, talk to them, and study how they made it through adversity. Understand everyone has had demons to battle. No one is perfect. We all fall down and skin our knees. When we realize how individuals we admire have experienced pain and loss, and have picked themselves back up, and not only survived, but thrived, it energizes us to do the inner work needed for transformation.
Listen to your heart. This is the message my kids have heard forever. Listen with respect, but go inward for the answers you seek.
People can only give advice based on their education and training, experience, and understanding. Everyone perceives the world through their experience. Our perception is our reality. There are many schools of thought, books, counselors, spiritual leaders, and other ways to see things, but you and you alone must make your way, and do the work to heal your life.
When we expand our reality, we have opened a new door. When that happens we recognize there is another perspective to the pain we’ve endured. We discover another truth to the situation.
What stops us from doing the work and making the commitment to access the answers and find another perspective?
– The belief we aren’t good enough.
– Our ego too proud and cocky to admit there’s work to be done.
– Getting stuck in limited thinking.
– No boundaries.
– Lack of self-respect.
– Judging our self.
– Looking outside without ever doing the inside work.
– ‘What will others think’ mentality.
– Negative self-talk.
– Old tapes of past mistakes replaying constantly.
– Getting comfortable being a victim.
– Convincing ourselves this work isn’t important.
– Giving our self-worth away to others.
– No support.
– Limited definition of love.
– Thinking someone else has the power to fix you.
What helps us access the answers?
– LOVE redefining the definition of love.
– Quit judging our self.
– Building a network of support
– Willingness to seek help
– Healthy boundaries.
– Able to withstand rejection.
– To view asking for help as courageous vs a weakness.
– Turning past wounds into healing vehicles for others.
– To get real and quit believing you know it all.
– Willing to find another perspective to our stories.
– To believe what we think isn’t the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
Take the time and make the commitment to do the work. You are worth it. It serves everyone.
Author Sandy Powers, Life Coach since 1998